Friends…..How Many of Us Have Them?

Going back to my childhood (because everything that we do originates there), I learned the importance of friendship. Somewhere at my grandma’s house, there is my kindergarten report card. On this report card I performed satisfactorily in all areas except the comment section. The comment read “Racquell is very social and has lots of friends, but she needs to learn when it’s appropriate to talk.” Yes. I woke up like this. The same applies today as I’m usually getting in trouble at work for being too chatty and having hour long conversations with strangers I meet on the street.  In addition, Jenny (my mother) has had friends near and far for all of my life. I can’t remember a time when they weren’t there for support for whatever shenanigans she had going on. They were at my birthday parties, their kids became my friends and they never failed to give me encouragement and guidance as I was growing up. Many of them still do. So it’s no secret that friendship continues to be a major part of what makes me who I am. Anybody that knows me, knows that I absolutely love my friends. Emphasis on FRIENDS. By that I mean that if we’ve never hung out, been to a wedding or a funeral together or your parents don’t know who I am, then we probably aren’t really friends. I have tons of pictures of them hanging in my work space, in frames, just everywhere. Every […]

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It’s Just Hair

Bald headed. Blonde. Red. Mohawks. Curly. Blown out. Cornrows. Box braids. Bantu knots. Marley twists. For the life of me I can never decide what to do next. There are just so many options to choose from. But at the end of the day, it’s all just hair. I’ve found that whatever I do to my hair, one thing that needs to remain constant is it’s health. Y’all know I LOVED my blonde hair. That one time I took it platinum blonde and looked like Sisqo (per my grandma) was a highlight in my hair journey. 40 volume developer was no joke. It cost me. Not only had I completely destroyed my hair, but I also had to nurse it back to life. That took time, patience, lots of money for products and lastly trial and error. It would be lovely if I could use everyone’s go to staple- coconut oil. Unfortunately I have quite an allergy to it. There are a few products with small concentrations of coconut (sometimes labeled as coco neferius) that I can use such as Aussie and Camille Rose. Anything beyond that and I’m scratching more than a kid with chickenpox. I gave the oils a shot for a brief moment before it hit me. Think about it. As a kid your hair grew like wildfire right? This was with no thanks to relaxers and hot combs with no heat protection. All the “bo-bos” and […]

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So….About these Student Loans

I would say somehow, but I know exactly how I got up to 110k worth of student loan debt. No, you didn’t read it incorrectly. Your eyes ARE NOT deceiving you. $110,000 worth. Do I feel like I have $110,000 worth of knowledge in my head? Depends on who’s asking. How sway? How? In undergrad, I transferred four times. Vance-Granville Community College to NC A&T. Then to UNCG. Then to GTCC. Then back to A&T. At each school I got as much of the max loans each semester and balled out on refund checks like most students. *cues Crew by Goldlink. I’m still trying to figure out what I was thinking. Like Racquell, you have to pay these loans back at some point fool. All the clothes. All the food. All the liquor. Now we won’t mention the tattoos because they were all totally worth it. Or all the trips I took. They were worth it too. Fight me. As if that wasn’t enough, I gave myself a six month hiatus from school following undergrad. I knew I wanted to go to grad school but didn’t truly know what for. All I knew is that I had to make moves before the student loan grace period let up. So I enrolled in Capella online for I don’t remember what. Wasn’t feeling it and transferred to Strayer. It was during this time that I learned that grad school does indeed, cut refund checks. Ballin! Yeah, ballin […]

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Many the Milestones

2017 January- Cheers to another chapter February- 1st time at a live boxing match March- Turned 27. Got Milo.  Visited New York for the 1st time April- Got my first car without my grandma as a cosigner May- Concealed Carry Class (bucketlist) June- Finished MBA July- Essence Festival (bucketlist) August- Launched http://www.prettydoperight.com September- Went to my first Nigerian Wedding (super lit) October- Brian McKnight concert (bucketlist) November- Fully coordinating 1st wedding December- 1st time out of the country- Dominican Republic   Goal setting is a bit overwhelming for me. I’ve read so much material on how to effectively set goals, in different categories, with different deadlines. Sounds like a bit much right? My notebook looked like scratch paper from a Math EOG test. I realized that this wasn’t realistic for a scatterbrained person such as myself.  At least not always having an answer to the annoying “where do you see yourself in five years” question. Honestly I don’t know. 5 years ago, I had no idea where I’d be at this very moment. See how much sense that makes? I had to learn how to look back at the small milestones. They count too. Nowadays making time for self care such as “me time” and doctors visits go unappreciated. I’m always reminded of them when I think back to when I didn’t have health insurance. See. That’s a milestone. It’s easier to look back to track progress. Adulting sucks. Some days when my […]

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From Bitter to Better

You ever started cleaning up and stumble across an old flash drive. Yeah? Ever come across a few gems that you hadn’t shared with anyone? Me too. I found some material that I wrote back in the summer of 2014. I had titled it “Spare a Heart: My Ultimate Grow Up Manual. Looking at it now, I started it out with my love life, or lack thereof. It’s pretty bad. Here are a few excerpts: Guys are no longer giving women the option to date, not be a “coverup” (for the down-low guy), to be the side chick, to be more than sex, or to merely be anything more than just their physical or verbal punching bag. Where is the communication? Where is the transparency. Where are the relationships? There is no loyalty. Just greed. Have your cake and eat it too. Time and time again, I find myself in the same boat. I’m devastated over a guy that does nothing for me besides give me great sex. Hugging and cuddling here and there doesn’t count. It’s just enough to keep me hooked and booking another appointment for the following week. When is enough simply enough? I’d love to be given the option to actually become emotionally attached. Maybe I’m not selective enough about who I let into my life. I’m broken, therefore I’ll continue to attract unhealthy and broken people. Racquell. Captain Save a Hoe. I always feel the need to fix them. […]

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Kicking It Up A Notch

Pressed. That’s exactly what I was when I first ordered my personal business cards for Pretty Dope Right. I spent almost 3 hours going through different formats and fonts trying to find the perfect one. I was like a kid in a candy store. And then there was the logo part which I still don’t have. To hell with it. […]

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Thank Me Later

So after last weeks post, I thought that I should follow up with another post about books. This post is much shorter and requires a lil bit of participation on your end. While they may not be my favs, there are a few good books that have changed my life for the better. See the list below: All About Love- Bell Hooks (love) The Alchemist- Paulo Coelho (life) Body Punishment- Maggie Lamond Simone (Anxiety, OCD) Oh the Places You’ll Go- Dr. Seuss (life) Chocolate Flava- Zane (sex, see last weeks post) There are plenty of others that will be added to the list in the near future. You should see my collection. I’ve been a bookworm since I was a kid. Reading is my escape up until I snap out of it and realize that an entire day has passed while I was reading. I just finished reading The Law of the Garbage Truck by David J Pollay. In his book, he discussed how we need to stop taking on the garbage of other people and how we need to stop dumping our garbage on other people. If you entertain it in any capacity, you give energy to it. This is energy that cannot be replaced. David suggested that we should simply “keep it moving” for lack of better terms. It made sense to me. This is a book that I’ll only suggest to folks that are serious about protecting their energy. Thank me later. […]

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