We’ve finally reached the most controversial holiday season of the year. Tis the season of cheer, fellowship, joy, love and traditions. Tis also the season of ungratefulness, greed, loneliness and feelings of inadequacy. Now I’m not saying that it isn’t okay to be joyous. I’m simply asking you to be mindful.
Here are a few reasons why.
Working in retail during the holidays turned me off from Christmas a long time ago. I’ve never been a materialistic person and retail simply reassured me of how unnecessary it is to “buy gifts.” This glorious year reminded me that “going against the norm” is completely okay. Nothing happens if you don’t buy anything. Most people only buy gifts because people make them feel bad if they don’t. Priorities get all fucked up for Christmas. I personally know people that forgo rent payments and car notes for the sake of buying gifts. RENT!!!!!!!!!!!! There are also people pulling 80 hour work weeks for “Christmas money.”
That’s when it takes the unhealthy turn. So with that being said, check on your friends that are acting frantic and physically draining themselves during this holiday season.
I have students that will be experiencing their first Christmas without a parent. Other students being forced to decide which parent that they are spending Christmas with.
There is someone that will wake up to nothing and alone on Christmas Day.
There is someone that YOU know that is forbidden to celebrate with their families because they came out of the closet earlier this year.
The scenarios are endless.
Check on your friends that have to be strong during this holiday season.
It can also be stressful for us twenty somethings that are going against other societal norms – the single passion-driven kidless kind.
Those that actually choose (because you’re grown now and you do have a choice) to spend time with family during the holidays. Shoutout out to those with healthy family dynamics but this for the folks being summoned by their dysfunctional and/or toxic family members.
It happens every year. You actually look forward to going home to spend time (this time). You’ve mentally prepared. You prepared a dish. Arrived on time. Greeted everyone. Plates have been prepared. As folks are finishing up, folks are starting to chatter and somehow the focus of the conversation has shifted to you.
So what do you do now?
I had a friend that did that, and they didn’t make any money.
Passions don’t pay the bills.
So where’s your man at?
You’re still not thinking about kids? You’re almost 30.
So whats’s the five year plan?
Check on your folks that are actually spending time with their families (*especially folks down South that have been brainwashed into believing that respect is only reserved for the elderly by way of “minding your manners and respecting or not sassing your elders” even when they’re wrong).
How about everybody check on everybody?